The Sober Curious Movement

We've all heard the hype about the “dry January” and “sober curious” trends, right? I feel like I am hearing it more and more lately- I even have some friends who are now happily abstaining from alcohol completely, and this doesn't feel like just a temporary phase or a fad. More and more women (I am gearing this toward women because I am one, and I generally like to cater to women's issues and points of view when I am feeling inspired to write)  are skipping the happy hour drinks, embracing sobriety, or even going for a “California sober” lifestyle (a term I only heard about fairly recently and honestly, we could be calling it Canada Sober but it doesn't sound as cute or as catchy). It’s about feeling better—physically, mentally, and emotionally—without all the extra baggage that comes with alcohol. Let’s break it down in a way that’s less about being preachy and more about why this movement is actually kind of fun.

*Disclaimer- I love wine, I love going out, and I love to have a few drinks as much as the next person. The following is based on my findings as I have recently cut back on my alcohol consumption, and I know several others who have done the same or are now abstaining completely. If you're not sober or sober curious, and you're happily the life of the party and it's not affecting you negatively at all, then all the power to you sister. Freedom of choice!! XOXO*

First- What the Heck is ‘California Sober’?

First things first—let’s talk about the term that’s popping up everywhere: “California sober.” It’s not about living in sunny California (though that’s a nice thought and by the way Mother Nature, I'm freezing my ass off here). Instead, it’s a way of saying, “I’m not going completely sober, but I’m cutting out alcohol.” Think no more wine at dinner, but maybe a little weed or a CBD gummy here and there on a Friday night.  I am certainly not telling you how to live your life, it's all about finding a balance that works for you. 

For some, it’s a chill middle ground—staying clear of alcohol while still enjoying the occasional puff or other non-alcoholic vices. It’s about feeling good without going overboard. It’s like “why limit yourself to one type of indulgence when you can pick your poison (responsibly)?”

Why Are Women Going Sober (or "California Sober")?

You might be thinking, “Okay, sounds like a trend, and you can't spell "Trend" without "END", but why are so many women jumping on this?” Well, there are a few reasons that make sense—and they’re actually pretty relatable.

1. Mental Health Vibes 💆‍♀️

Let’s face it—alcohol can sometimes be the opposite of helpful when it comes to mental health. Sure, that glass of wine might feel like it melts away the stress of the day, but it’s actually messing with our sleep, can make you feel anxious, and just leaving us feeling meh overall. Plans to go to that pilates class tomorrow? You may be more tempted to hit the snooze button tomorrow if you enjoy a couple glasses of wine tonight. Women are realizing that ditching alcohol actually makes their minds feel clearer, their moods more balanced, and their motivation skyrocket. I can personally attest to this, and don't get me wrong I love a big glass of red, but over time I am consuming less and less alcohol and feeling much more empowered to take on projects and challenges knowing I will be in the best head space to do that.

The sober curious movement is all about checking in with yourself and saying, “Does this really make me feel good in the long run?” And spoiler alert: sometimes it doesn’t. So, women are choosing to take breaks from alcohol and exploring the mental benefits of feeling more present. The great news is, you get to decide when you feel like doing this, and if you feel like doing this at all. The flip side of this coin is, that I have heard some people say "Dry January? No way! January is the darkest, longest, and statistically the most depressing month..why would I want to eliminate something that brings me joy and fun?". Honestly, fair fair. 

2. Clearer Skin & Better Health 🧖‍♀️

Well hello, if this isn't reason enough to drink a little less wine. Who else has noticed the dreaded "wine face" the next morning? The stained teeth or lips, that bloat, those under-eye bags... Yeah, it’s not a look that's in style this season.  Alcohol can dehydrate, mess with your complexion, and leave you feeling sluggish. But when you decide to ditch (or decrease) the booze, a lot of people notice they feel so much better AND they look better—clearer skin, more energy, and a body that feels lighter. No more feeling like you’re dragging yourself through the day!

Not drinking for some also means a more consistent workout routine (because you’re not spending the next day recovering). You will be more motivated to go for that run or take that Pilates class, and really make a habit of those things. Your body can work in overdrive when it’s not dealing with hangovers or feeling sluggish from that last cocktail, or when it's craving salty foods and naps just to satiate that feeling of " I simply cannot today". 

3. Socializing Without the Pressure, Driving Home

There’s this weird societal pressure to drink when you’re out with friends. Like, if you’re not holding a glass of something, are you even having fun? But guess what? You can have a blast without the booze. And I personally have been experiencing this, having attended multiple events this past holiday season and driving myself home afterward. Whether it’s hitting up a brunch sans Mimosas, going for a coffee date, enjoying a fun workout class, or just going for a walk and chatting, there’s a whole world of activities out there where you don’t need to reach for a drink.

Going sober gives you a whole new kind of freedom. You don’t have to worry about overdoing it, saying something embarrassing, or waking up feeling sick or worse, regretful. 

4. Empowerment: Owning Your Choices 💪

Here’s the kicker: going sober whether it be temporary or permanant is all about owning your choices. It’s about taking control of your life, your health, and your happiness. Women are embracing the power of saying “no” to things that don’t serve them anymore (bye-bye hangovers and awkward mornings). It’s less about giving something up and more about gaining something: energy, focus, clarity, and a healthier lifestyle.

And let’s be real: it’s empowering to say “I’m having fun, I’m living my best life, and I don’t need a drink to prove it.”

Is Sober Curious or California Sober Right for You?

You don’t have to make this a huge, all-or-nothing thing. If you’re thinking about giving sobriety a shot (or just cutting back), here’s a simple way to dip your toes in without feeling any pressure one way or the other. 

• Start Slow: Don’t stress about going full-throttle sober right away. Try taking breaks—maybe a weekend without alcohol or a month-long challenge—and see how you feel. You might be surprised! Ask a friend to do a challenge with you for X amount of days.
• Try Alcohol-Free Options: If the thought of a drink in your hand is part of the fun, there are SO many amazing non-alcoholic options now. Think non-alcoholic beers, sparkling waters with a twist of lime, or even fun mocktail recipes that give you all the flavor, none of the buzz. Placebo effect, anyone?
• Find Your Community: There are plenty of sober-curious groups online and in person. Sharing your experience with others who get it is pretty empowering. Plus, it’s always nice to know you’re not the only one making a change.
• Celebrate Your Wins: Whether you’re going full-on sober or just cutting back, celebrate those little victories. Waking up without a headache? That’s a win. Feeling more energized after a week of cutting back? That’s a win, too.

Final Thoughts

At the end of the day, there’s no one right way to do life. But more and more women are realizing that sobriety (or even just dialing back on alcohol) isn’t about deprivation—it’s about empowerment. It’s about choosing to feel your best, both mentally and physically, and stepping away from what doesn’t serve you. That's a big life lesson that I personally am learning. The older I get, the more I realize I am completely in control of my life and all outcomes.

Whether you’re just curious or ready to make a big change, the world of sober living is here—and it’s actually kind of chic. Cheers to that!